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Success Story
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Maricel Pesiao (Philippines ) & Andrew Powell (USA)
When God writes our love story, |
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We met in CupidUSA.com. we started our communication February 2, 2004 as our official meeting as is registered in our first email communique'.
The first email I (Maricel) got was from Andrew, a student from Indiana University looking for friend. We corresponded through email for 2 weeks until we decided to add each other on our YM's (Yahoo instant Messenger). Since we live in two very different time zones we were not able to talk that much. When I was online he was out to school and when he's home I was going to school. I got interested in him because I love his intelligence and his humor. He makes me laugh. I found myself not wanting to go to bed. I did not want to stop chatting with this guy. I love him. Frequent chats, e-mails and telephone calls have sustained us as we sacrificed some physical closeness. Nevertheless, the distance separating us didn't hinder us to know each other and build a good friendship that would eventually blossom into something deeper. Being apart gave us some time to build a firm foundation of trust and faith.
After 7 months of meeting online we finally met in person for the first on October 25th of 2004 Monday at 12:30 am followed by a second visit on October 15 of 2005, and third visit by October 21, 2006 and soon March 2007.
We are getting married in the Philippines on March 25, 2007 and in Indiana on April 14, 2007. |
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Dear Shelly
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| Ask Shelly - Q&A's on Dating and Relationships |
Dear Shelly,
Hi, I've been in a relationship for 2 years. My boyfriend, with whom I've been living, still has his ex-girlfriend's things in the house. Just about everything is hers. When I ask him why, he keeps telling me that she owes him a lot because she cheated on him. She also still calls him and they talk on the phone, even though I asked her not to. He recently came home from work at 5:00 am and when I asked him where he'd been, he told me that he ran out of gas and had to walk home. The next day, I know they spoke on the phone even though he denied it and said it was a friend. What do I do? I love him and don't want to loose him but I don't want to be played either.
Lost in Ohio
Dear Lost in Ohio,
It seems as though something suspicious is going on with your boyfriend and his previous girlfriend. It just does not make sense for him to have a bulk of her things still in his possession because "she owes him". What does that mean? Furthermore, if he were truly upset or angry with her, he would not still have any type of relationship with her. You need to have him totally come clean. Why are they still communicating with each other? It seems like his ex-girlfriend is more of a current girlfriend than you are. If you have been in this relationship for two years, why is this only bothering you now? You truly should have taken a stand when you noticed that they were still in heavy correspondence with each other. In addition, your boyfriend is clearly and blatantly telling you lies, if after your continuous suspicions, he conveniently "ran out of gas". It is time for you to be stern with him and really let him know that he cannot lie to you. If this persists, you might have to end your relationship because trust is just too important to compromise in a long term union.
Dear Shelly,
I am a single mother of one and have been seeing this guy I met in a club for about 5 months. I don't know if I fell in love with him or if I was acting out of loneliness but in the end, I found myself wanting his presence all the time. The strange thing is that he has never invited me to his place and we normally operate on text messages. He does call me sometimes. Of late it's been a game of chase and I have to be the one to contact him first. Of course, he always comes over when I ask him to but the point is I feel like our relationship is all about sex. He's never taken me out or asked me to meet his friends or spend a whole weekend together. Help me out. Is he a player?
Confused
Dear Confused,
It is normal to have feelings of loneliness and companionship. However, I think the important issue is to address what type of relationship pattern was established between you and your new male friend. If you two began on only an intimate level with not much in between, it seems conventional for him to only correlate you with intimacy. I mean, if you went out on dates in conjunction with sex, then perhaps you could expect otherwise from him. To really know what he wants out of the relationship, the easiest way is to just to discuss it with him. Ask him if he would like to do other things such as going out to dinner or watching a movie and see how he reacts. If he is reluctant to do so, he probably regards the relationship as one of intimacy only. Hey, you really won't know for sure until you ask. Perhaps he thinks that all that you ever wanted was intimacy and didn't want to bring up other alternatives. Some men tend to have strong egos and don't want to display their emotions so openly. Fear of rejection oftentimes can go both ways. Ask him and then you will truly know what lies in the future for your relationship.
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Famous Love Letters
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There's nothing more touching than a tender love letter, one that you keep stored in a special place and every once in a while go back to reading it. If you wish to write a love letter to someone special, let your heart do the talking and if in need of some inspiration, take a look at our selection of famous love letters written by some of the most prominent personas of our history.
John Keats (1795 - 1821) ,
was one of the principle poets of the English Romantic movement. He led a short but brilliant life. At the age of 23, he met and fell in love with Fanny Brawne. Tragically, doctors had already diagnosed the tuberculosis which would eventually kill him and prevent their marriage. |
Aboard Air Force One
March 4, 1983
 To Fanny Brawne ,
I cannot exist without you - I am forgetful of every thing but seeing you again - my life seems to stop there - I see no further. You have absorb'd me.
I have a sensation at the present moment as though I were dissolving ....I have been astonished that men could die martyrs for religion - I have shudder'd at it - I shudder no more - I could be martyr'd for my religion - love is my religion - I could die for that - I could die for you. My creed is love and you are its only tenet - you have ravish'd me away by a power I cannot resist.
John Keats |
Vincent Van Gogh (1853 - 1890) ,
famous Dutch Post-Impressionist painter was known not just for his brilliant masterpieces but also for his lost, tortured, bohemian soul. He was driven to an early suicide and it was only after his death that his fame grew. In this letter to his brother, Theo, Van Gogh describes his passion for his cousin, Kee. Unfortunately, she never withdrew from her position of 'no, never never'. |
September 7, 1881
 Life has become very dear to me, and I am very glad that I love. My life and my love are one. "But you are faced with a 'no, never never'" is your reply. My answer to that is, "Old boy, for the present I look upon that 'no, never never' as a block of ice which I press to my heart to thaw." |
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Love Tip
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| Relationships grow and evolve progressively and it can sometimes be hard for people who haven't been in a relationship for a long time to deal with the sharing, the give-and-take and the talking that are required for a healthy relationship to exist. Keep in mind that it is important to communicate and to share. This isn't always easy and sometimes, one party has to encourage the other to do so, but this is how a couple can grow together. Don't avoid conflict. Real relationships have discussions and arguments, but they take place reasonably so that both partners end up with what they want. |
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Facts of Romance
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| Here are a few amusing facts about love and romance: |
Did you know that we subconsciously learn how to use and read body language from the time of birth. Here are a few common flirting signals:
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- Dialated Eyes - Our eye pupils dialate when we're excited. So if someone's eyes look really big, it shows they're interested in you.
- Lip and Mouth Activities - If during conversation, someone is gently biting their lip or running their tongue along the lips, this means that they are attracted to you.
- Hair Playing - Hair is a sign of vitality, youth and strength. If someone is involved in any play with their hair, such as running their fingers through their hair, they are trying to show this off.
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